“I’m just not really feeling it….”
It seems that the one thing we could all do with, is a bit more motivation. I speak with a lot of people each week, and at the moment especially, people are saying such things to me as,
“How do you stay so motivated? I just can’t bring myself to do certain things, I’m exhausted. I wish I was more- I don’t know.
I’m just not that motivated I guess….”
Can you relate? If so, you’re not on your own.
I feel that motivation is a very misunderstood concept, and after several years of teaching and training both adults and children, working in both the public and private sectors, my understanding of motivation has progressed to mean something quite different now to what I thought it was.
The most common expectation that many people seem to have with themselves is that they SHOULD be able to just motivate themselves to do things and to be a certain way; like flicking on a light switch- boom! It’s on and you feel bright, and dazzling and illuminating. Well, not quite. I would like to suggest a shift in metaphor for you to help you see that motivation is more like a relationship- you do your best, over a period of time, you have good and bad moments, but you hang in there because there is high value. And like a relationship, motivation can often provide you with wonderful and unexpected surprises, if you are open to them.
There is not just one type of motivation, or way to be motivated. Just like there is not one type of person, or relationship. I’ve found so far that there are several that keep coming up in my work with Kataholos, so I would like to share two of them with you here and more in future writing.
This is the most common type of motivation that people recognise and yet, it is the most infrequent to occur. When you feel this type of motivation you are full of energy, you can suddenly think clearly and see solutions to problems. You may feel physically lighter and a partially thing- a piece of music, an image, a sound- can fill you full of vitality. You feel like you can take on the world! Now I have experienced this, and it is indeed wonderful. But it is rare, it is fleeting: it floats in on some a magical breeze of emotional electricity, sets you on fire for a moment, and then passes on, to illuminate and empower the next person.
So manage your expectations for this type of motivation. We are not entitled to wake up and feel this every day, so enjoy it when it occurs. You can’t really plan for it, just enjoy it whilst it lasts. There are 168 hours in a week, and i would say that I only feel this type of motivation perhaps two or three times in a week, for a total of an hour or two. And that’s not a bad thing at all. Because when it occurs, I know how rare it is- so I make the most of this type of motivation whilst it is around. I may delve into a work project, or dance, smile and just take a moment to enjoy the experience and how good it feels. But it is fleeting, so I let it go. This, therefore, creates a problem that you may now be considering. If this may only happen to you for an hour or two each week, how can you stay motivated for the other 165-166 hours?!
That’s where the next type of motivation comes in.